Do you have friends around you that never seem to have any ideas of their own, but always say yes to yours? What about co-workers that drag you down or make you doubt your abilities? Maybe you have people around you that always see the negative in every situation, darkening your days instead of brightening them. And what about those calls you send to voicemail rather than answering because ‘you just can’t cope with that conversation right now’.
I once had a boss who was a great connection, on paper — female, successful, results oriented, a great supporter of me and my work. Over time, however, as my success and network of influence grew, her behaviour changed.
Once productive meetings became discussions of negative details; my big ideas, which had once been embraced enthusiastically, were shut down; my personal ambitions were devalued and marginalised. I was clearly and continuously put back in my box. A woman who had once inspired me now began to limit me.
Networking effectively is absolutely about finding the right people and that can often that can involve intentionally losing the wrong people.
It might seem unlikely that you would associate with someone who doesn’t support you or your work, but often their negative impact won’t be immediately evident. It is only with time and experience that you begin to recognise the subtle interventions that keep you small, or behaviours that are incongruous with the lifestyle you actually want to lead or the person you want to become.
Knowing who to cut from your network is as important as knowing who to keep. There are four types of negative people you need to sink from the 'Network of You'
Be brave and reassess the negative people in your network. Choose to play your own game in the way you want. Choose to live the life you want. Choose to take control of your own energy, mindset and momentum. Choose to make your network work for you.
As multi-millionaire businessman and philanthropist Tony Robbins puts it,
‘Who you spend time with is who you become. Change your life by consciously choosing to surround yourself with people with higher standards!’